Dear Folly: My fiance and I have a lot in common. While I love her dearly and enjoy our time spent together sometimes I do not appreciate one topic she brings up. We are on different ends of the political spectrum. Although I never initiate a conversation about the candidate she voted for in the last election, she never misses an opportunity to debase my choice for the same office. It’s distressing, and I nearly cried the last time she made a derogatory remark about him. When she doesn’t bring up politics, we have a wonderful time. Why does she do this? Is she clueless about how much this bothers me? On top of all of that, we’re supposed to get married next year and her entire family is Ultra MAGA and often reference that we live in “Trump Country”. Do you have a polite, nonconfrontational way of making her stop or should I call the wedding off? — DEMOCRAT IN FLORIDA
Dear Democrat in Florida,
My, my, my, it seems you’ve found yourself in quite the predicament, haven’t you? Engaged to someone with opposing political views, and her entire family is MAGA too? Oh, my! The very thought is enough to make any sensible person’s head spin.
But fear not, my poor democrat. I, Dear Folly, am here to help you navigate this treacherous terrain.
Firstly, let’s remember that there’s no such thing as compromise or understanding in a relationship. Nope, it’s either your way or the highway, baby! So, the only logical solution is to make your fiancé see the error of her ways and convert her to your political beliefs. How, you ask? Easy! Just bombard her with a never-ending stream of propaganda until she can’t take it anymore and cries, “Uncle!” Simple, right?
Secondly, let’s talk about her family. Now, I’m sure they’re perfectly lovely people, but let’s face it, they’re not exactly the sharpest tools in the shed. So, my advice to you is this: make them see the error of their ways, too! Just show them all the evidence that supports your political views and they’ll come around in no time. And if they don’t? Well, that’s their problem, not yours.
Now, I know some of you may be thinking, “But Folly, what about love and respect in a relationship?” Pfft, who needs that? Love and respect are overrated. What’s really important is being right all the time, even if it means alienating your loved ones and causing irreparable damage to your relationship.
So, my advice to you is this: keep bombarding your fiancé with your political views until she sees the error of her ways, and if all else fails, call off the wedding and find someone who shares your political beliefs. After all, what’s the point of being in a relationship if you can’t force your beliefs on someone else?
